That afternoon we had a tea and chit chat about things in life - mostly about what happened around our lives - such as: career, dreams, aspirations, and so on. We then came to the topic - ‘true friends’.
Like an old man he advised me to choose my friend wisely in life, as not to let other people take advantage of my kindness, and that by this age I should have learnt whom my true friends are and let go those who can’t wait to see me down and unhappy.
His sentences struck me. I realized that it’s been some time since the last time I thought about it.
My mind roamed to the recent past few years. I looked back into my own thought. I think, I was too naive, even at this age. I trusted everyone that I just barely knew and met. Some I hadn’t even met before. Perhaps it’s in my nature. I always thought positive about anyone based on what I read, what I heard, but never even bother to find out from people surrounding them, who should have known about them better in real life.
I don’t know about you. But for me, I think, when you are honest with someone, you expect them to be honest with you. When you are opening yourself up to the friend you trust, you are also expecting them to be opening up to you. Nothing to hide and we keep this secret just between us. But of course, not everyone was willing to do the same.
Or perhaps, like he said, they might just take advantage of the kindness that I offered.
I told him that I never expected anything in return by doing so. It was purely kind intention, to make others happy.
He continued, “Yes, maybe that’s what you thought. But someone might just think otherwise. Instead of being grateful to you, they just took you for granted. They didn’t even bother to treat you right. Some even lied or hid the truth from you.”
“Well, whatever it was, I left it to karma,” I replied him, that simple only.
“Anyway, whatever goes around comes around. But by doing so, the person had to bear the risks of losing that friendship,” I said.
Suddenly I laughed at myself as I said this, again, to my stupidity, “Ah, maybe there was no such friendship at all at the first place. Perhaps I wasn’t worth much in their lives,” and then frowned for a while.
“But what hasn’t happened yet, I must be wary of. Well, just take it that I paid my debt back to them in this life. I feel better this way,” I continued, as usual, looking always at the bright side of life, and smiled.
We were quiet for quite a while and only sipping sound was heard with a background of a falling rain. What a wonderful moment! Both of us were contemplating with our own minds, as mine was looking at the beautiful memories I had with the rest of true friends that I currently had.
Tried to catch the falling rain :) |
Slowly we heard these beautiful lyrics from our neighbor’s balcony door…
Day will break, stars will fall
And there’s always something you forget to say.
Don’t dismay,
True friends never part.
Time will pass, paths will stray
And there’ll always be someone who will break your heart.
There’s no point being cruel,
True friends never part.
We’ll meet again, trust me my friend
There’s no harm in goodbye.
Give me your glass, follow your heart
Wipe that tear from your eye
Time makes amends, don’t be afraid
You’ll not let love pass you by.
Remember this,
True friends never part.
Nice post on what true friends are for?...i enjoyed reading your thoughts and expression la...keep posting
ReplyDeleteThank you Sancha for reading it and leaving your comment :)
DeleteTrue friendship matters more than getting a chance to board on chartered plane. But as your friend has highlighted, friends today come in different colors. We really have to spare little amount of time from our lives to judge people with whom we gonna be friends. Anyways nice read Aum Rima. Hope you aren't writing this after being betrayed by one of your friends. Just kidding..:D. Take care
ReplyDeleteThank you Sherab for your comments. Actually this is only fiction plus some imaginations on what would I do if I were facing this kind of situation.
DeleteFor me, I try to think and be positive to all my friends. How they react will be up to them as I have no right to judge and they have freedom to react. Let nature takes its course. If we're meant to be, we will be. And I believe that fate will play big part too. If it's time to go, I'll let it go :)
You too take care and hope you had great time with your parents in Thimphu! :)
"Day will break, stars will fall
ReplyDeleteAnd there’s always something you forget to say." really nice madam.. keep posting
Thank you Namgang! Your simple comment really made my day :) You keep posting too! Take care! ^^
DeleteFriends are like family that I got to choose :)
ReplyDeleteNice post.
Indeed. However we can't choose our family as we choose our friends though hehe... Thank you for dropping by and leaving your comment here! Wish you a pleasant weekend with beautiful autumn scenery there! ^^
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