Happiness - It’s a topic that most human beings are craving. We all want to be happy. We all want to get out from the suffering. But as we know, we were born into this world to suffer and it was all resulting from our karma in past life.
Lots of time, people will disgruntle as when they do good things in current lives, nothing good comes into their lives now. While others who do bad things, are still gaining so much and enjoy their lives now. That’s why they don’t trust in doing good things in current life. Sad no?
Anyhow, I browsed the internet one of these days and found the below articles in order for us to be happy. And these were extracted from ‘The World Book of Happiness’ by Leo Bormans.
1. ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE
Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations — they want what they can get — while unhappy people never seem to get what they want.
They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot.
As Dr Jose de Jesus Garcia Vega, of the University of Monterrey, Mexico, confirms, we must accept things as they come.
‘We spend a lot of time complaining about the things that happen to us, but this is a waste of time and effort,’ he says. ‘To be happy, we need to enjoy what we have.’
2. ENJOY WHAT YOU DO
Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do — and don’t do it for the money or glory.
There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good — people forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too.
Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family in the process, says Dr Garcia Vega. Later, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged family.
3. LIVE FOR TODAY
Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures.
Similarly, don’t dream about an idealized future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet.
Happy people live for the now. They have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different?
4. CHOOSE HAPPINESS
Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you go along.
This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind — you need to actively choose to be happy.
We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people.
Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else and cherish people who are important to you.
Research also shows that married people are happier than single people.
6. STAY BUSY
If you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality — accept that drinks invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to savor pleasure is in the company of others.
Build a rich social life, says Eunkook M. Suh, a psychology professor at Yonsei University in Seoul, not as an obligation, but because it is rewarding, meaningful and fun.
Active, busy, social people are the healthiest and happiest, in society.
7. DON'T COMPARE
Ambition is healthy and makes people happy, explains Claudia Senik, a professor at the University of Paris-Sorbonne, but envy makes them unhappy. Yet comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them.
Focus on your goals and dreams so you can enjoy your ambition and achievements.
8. BE YOURSELF
Just as you shouldn’t compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you — then you can truly be yourself.
Happy people are spontaneous, natural and real. They say what they think and feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free and authentic.
9. STOP WORRYING
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Happy people don’t worry and they recognize that 90 per cent of worries never come true. --> These are absolutely true!!!
10. GET ORGANIZED
You might envy those laid-back bohemian types who just do things on the spur of the moment, but don’t be fooled.
Happy people plan and organize; they have goals and a purpose.
You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is you want ror desire in the first place. So while those chilled-out friends might seem happy, they’re actually just drifting along.
11. THINK POSITIVE
Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort.
Happy people get things off their chest, their motto is: get rid of it, or it will get rid of you. Similarly, work at developing optimistic thinking; happy people always look on the bright side.
We need to switch from a negative, glass-half-empty outlook to a glass-half-full and put optimism into practice to be happiest. Optimism is the mind’s natural self-defense mechanism against depression.
12. VALUE HAPPINESS
Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around. The happiest people appreciate and realize that being happy adds years to their life, and life to their years.
I never read his book before but I found that all these points noted here reflected fully on what I've been doing all this while to attain happiness. Amazing right? Seemed like he was analyzing my life and put it into writing on his book haha... :P
Seriously, I can’t agree less with all those points. And seems like it has grown inside me unknowingly since long time ago throughout my experience in life. Maybe in past life I was learning all these??? I don’t know. But those were all things I’ve encountered, believed in, and been doing it all the time.
So, I’m sure you can get your happiness too by practicing all that. Try and experience it ba!!! Hope all of you can be happy too!!! Good luck!